Thursday 20 March 2014

PARTIAL LOVE

By Anonymous guest writer 
It sucks to completely give yourself to someone, only to realise that they are sharing themselves. The reality of it all is that not everyone has the capacity to love and help guard your heart like you can. YOUR HEART IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
What is partial love?
There is nothing worse than partial love because when “your” so-called man gives you partial love, it is because there is not enough love for everyone because he is not yours alone, in fact, he is not yours at all. He belongs to none of you. So do not get all cheeky with me and say "I was first" or "we have children together" or "she knows about me but I do not about her. So that makes me more important". Honey!  Just STOP it.
A man who shares himself will never really appreciate and value you for what you are worth because he is too busy keeping all the women in his life happy, while placing his and your own happiness at risk. Baby girl! That man does not know what love is. Yes, I said it. He is a lost soul that was sent to distract you from your true purpose. Call him the devils agent if you so wish because girl, he is definitely not heaven sent. God loves you way too much to let you get hurt like that. This is your heart we are talking about.
If that man really loved you, he would know that love is something COMPLETE and not partial.
Don’t be a joke
If you are born before Namibia’s independence then I am almost sure that you have reached that stage in your life where child’s play of “knock knock” “who is there?” has left in your teen years.
If you have clear EVIDENCE that your man is clowning around, you need to stop being the joke and get out of that comedy show. You need to go free your mind elsewhere honey. Life is no joke and your feelings are no toy. So stop letting him play you like some yo–yo.
Have principals
Take a look in the mirror. Ok, now take another look into the mirror. Do you see what I see? You are a beautiful, gentle being that was created in God’s image and if you are not seeing what I am seeing then honey, you need a new mirror because the one you are using is either, dirty, broken or made in China. And when you finally see what I see. I need you to ask yourself if that is what you really want. To always COMPETE for second best. Yes, second best. First place does not exist when there is more than one of you. Brother man is probably waiting on the next best thing after the dozen of you, so do not get excited just because he spends ten minutes more with the next girl then he does with you.
You need a relationship that has consistency, stability, loyalty, respect and intimate COMPLETE love.  Love is a beautiful thing that offers so much happiness, a sense of belonging, compassion and all things beautiful.

And you need to remember that you cannot chase what is already yours.

1 comment:

  1. Couldn’t have said it better my self.... This is eye opening.
    It’s sad that most women know all this and yet we still keep falling for partial lovers over and over again. We often also tend to think that we are in the Olympics, competing for a gold metals we will never get. Mean while we need to understand that nothing you do will not win you first prize if the guy you are competing for doesn’t think you deserve 1st price. True that “YOU CAN NOT CHASE WHAT IS ALREADY NOT YOURS”.
    Well yes It’s easier said than done, but I too believe that one just needs to look in the mirror and revaluate their or get some principals (that’s if you don’t already have some).

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