PARTIAL LOVE PART TWO

By: Anonymous writer

Relationships are not for children

If “your” man is struggling to choose between you and the ex or the next, do yourself and everyone else a favour and cut yourself out of the equation. Why would you want to be with someone you need to book in advance? Just in case he might be booked on the day you want to see him. For as long as your man does not know what he wants, he will never know who he wants. Only when he knows what he wants, will he know what to look for in a partner. And NO you cannot help him decide what he wants. You will be playing with the devils pot trying to help him make his mind up. He will resent you for that and you will get your fingers burnt.

So for as long as your man keeps treating all his baby mammas, ex girlfriends or ex wives like present lovers then he will never be free of that chain that will keep him from finding real happiness. You need to make him realise that he cannot keep everyone else HAPPY at the expense of your happiness.

Why should you accept partial love and help him unpack if he keeps mixing all his dirty laundry with his clean laundry. When will you guys ever finish unpacking and finally separate the two? Na boo na.

Walk tall

If he cannot make up his mind you need to gather up some courage and walk out that door with your chin up,  head held high, back straight, chest out, tummy tucked and you singing Halleluja. Be the one that got away instead of the one that got left behind. It is about time you let go so that you can make yourself available to someone who is willing to give you complete love. Imagine missing out on the heart that is meant to love simply because you were too preoccupied with the man who was meant for another woman.

Be the atom that losses

You can do the physics you want but science will tell you that when an atom gains electrons, it becomes negative, and if it LOSES electrons, it becomes POSITIVE. So loose those electrons and gain only positivity. You have nothing to lose, only yourself to gain. And the end result is a heart that is well guarded has the will to love give and receive.

So if you do not know whether he is cheating with you or cheating on you. Then Houston we have a problem (shouts). You should not be any one of the two.

No excuses

And no honey, please do not get all mushy with me with things like "but she is a baby mamma, I simply cannot compete with that". No no no and no again. Listen here, she is just a woman like you and his baby mamma is just in the mother of his child.

The two of you are not in the same league. She washes diapers and you want the title of wife. If he knows what he wants, then you have nothing to worry about. So boo getting pregnant and joining the nappy changing room won't make him love you more. Na, you will just be adding to the monthly child support bill.

Children are a blessing that cannot stand in the way of your happiness, because he is surely not going to get married his children.

So you choose. Either you stand your ground and be boss madam like Sally in her song or make him pack his bags and go away like Ndeshi in her song.