So recent a few friends and I
had a talk about Independent women. In as much as more women are becoming
independent especially financially, they are apparently starting to make the
men in their lives feel like they are not NEEDED.
Yep, I said. As much as we
think men want strong independent women they also want to feel needed. It would
seem that not asking for money to get your nails, hair or shopping done or
simply asking for advice on important matters in your life is emasculating the
men. Ladies that is why he is probably holding on to that side chick that
squeezes him for every cent he makes.
So now my question goes to the
guys, why do you need validating by virtue of material things? I am sorry but
you don’t need to feel needed just because you can provide material things. Yes
they are important to some, but if you are building your hope of a long term
relationship based on this kind of validation you are in for a rude awakening. One
that is, likely going to blow your socks off.
Let’s be honest, we live in a
time where greed is governing the economy so much so that financial crises are
becoming the order of the day. So explain to me how you will not be frustrated
once you’re with someone who is not financially dependent on you, just because
you want to feel like a man.
My brothers open your sees and
remove the splinter of ignorance; the days of material validation as proof of
being needed are long gone. We are now in an age where women need you to be
good great men worth of strong women and are able to look at all that strength
with appreciation. Yes we do need you, but if we don’t need to show it by
taking your money all the time. We need you to be there for us emotionally
because that’s the need we have the most.
