This is an open letter to all my brothers and sister
out there. Hid my warning (liking the dramatic effect), we are often trapped in
the shackles of what we term relationships sticking around even when things
have gone bust because we believe ourselves to be the agent that changes the
people in our lives to be better partners. If this is you I suggest you stop,
stop thinking you change her/him to be the better person.
In the beginning of all relationships promises are
made expectations are raised, trust is built and partners are bonded. However,
when things start to head south because of various reasons like cheating being
the common one, things change. That change is often good or bad, if done once
and your partner confuses without you having to play detective I say by all
means forgive him or her. Those cases are forgivable and trust can be rebuilt.
However, if he/she is a repeated offender of cheating
and continuously lies to you, to you I say get the hell out of the kitchen because
it is only likely to get worse. The reality that people chose to ignore is that
love is no suppose to hurt, lie, cheat or make you feel unworthy of being loved
and respected. Women and men stop this non-sense of disregarding the feelings
of others; if you feel you’re not cut out to be faithful don’t get into a
relationship. Don’t play on the good nature of others, because you can’t have
your cake and eat it. If you can be disrespected now do you thinking getting
married or having a baby will change things! Women stop trapping men with
babies and men stop making women want to trap you (Note that I don’t
discriminated). This vicious circle is creating a generation of bitter young
people and the few good men and women of principles left become victims as a
result there off. It is bloody annoying that some people are selfish and only
think of themselves and put others in the “to hell with you” bracket. It’s sad
to see so many people living in D-NILE/DENIAL (even I’ve swam in that river a
couple of times). Victoria Holt once said “Never regret. If it’s good, it’s
wonderful. If it’s bad its experience” so when things become bad, let go and
think of the experience learnt. Sometimes it becomes more important to let go
especially for your own sanity.
Sometimes you need to realise that “if you are brave
to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello” Paulo Coehlo, this hello
will meaning loving yourself enough to know what you deserve and don’t deserve.
If you plan to get back out there you also need to remember that good fortune
only ever favours that brave, so be that brave someone.
Couldn't have said it better!! It's important to also know your worth and know the respect that you deserve for it. That way, if it is not appreciated enough, you clearly someone doesn't deserve you, then there's no need to subject yourself to the trauma.
ReplyDeleteYou are on point; we are living in tough times. People have lost all morals and lost all shreds of dignity. This has become a sport in our society. And from a woman’s perspective I thing we have allowed men to continuously do this to us become we have lost self respect and we don’t know our true value and maybe don’t love your selves enough. I’m a bit of a feminist, however I do acknowledge that woman too are guilty of this crime, maybe just not to the same extend men do and mostly not for the same reasons.
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