So recently someone said to me ‘Cathy you don’t act
like a woman nor to you act your age’ and being me I asked what the hell that
suppose to mean, exactly. I suck at reading in between the lines so please
break it down for me. Before I continue keep in mind that there are two sides
to every story especially if it’s a man declaring such a statement to you.
The negative side:
In order for a guy/man to makes such a statement in
the negative sense it can only mean one thing, He wants to disrespect you; so much
so, but by the same token he wants you to be open minded about allowing him to
disrespect you (keep up it will make sense soon enough). This guy I call a
Chance Taker and he will usually be someone you care a lot about. Be careful
not to get your head stuck in the clouds for he will walk all over you like a red carpet on Oscar night in Hollywood.
Ladies, any man who wants you to go against the principles that govern you,
does not love you because the good word says love is not evil (1 Corinthians
13:5). Chance Taker will usually be a great manipulator, he will play on your
emotions like a fiddle. However, breaking away from this one will be much
harder especially if you've made him the pinnacle of your happiness. More times
than others, no good comes out of holding on to Chance Taker because he will
break you (physically and emotionally). He will push so far along the road of
cray, cray you will lose more than just the man, you will lose yourself. So
don’t wait to hit rock bottom before you open your eyes and realise he is no
good for you at all, because with every heart break you lose something of
yourself to a point were you might not appreciate a good thing when it comes your
way. Just keep in mind there are good guys out there so don’t sell yourself short
to be Chance Takers side chick.
The positive side:
In order for a guy/man to make such a statement in the positive sense it
can only mean one thing, he wants to get serious but for every step he takes
towards you with good intentions you will take ten steps back, because of the
baggage dealt to you by the Chance Taker. This poor guy is busy fighting
against the tides of your boyfriends past and he is losing the war without
having begun the battle, because caution has become your middle name. Don’t get
me wrong, I’m not saying don’t the cautious, but weigh the efforts of this man
as an individual and try to recognise his good qualities. This man just wants
for you to start acknowledging the fact that a future that is pain free with
him is possible. He wants to see that he would protect your heart as he would
his own. This guy is talking future business not side chick promises. He wants
you to realise and accept that bad things happen to good people but those with
good intentions shouldn't be punished for the sins of the other heartless,
uncaring men. This one just wants you to snap back to reality and start a
happing ending with him. In fact he wants to help you find yourself physically
and emotionally and then he wants you to be a unit, one. Sad thing is, the ones
with good intentions are usually ignored because our minds are busy chasing
fantasises. A good man is hard to find, but a greater man is even harder to acknowledge.
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